Originally Posted by Mustang65
Here is the correct diagram:
That is how I had it - basically before/after I moved the wires and today. Instead of two relays or fuses, both the trailer charge line and the jack are going through the relay I have now. Everything else is the same.
Since I am pretty sure by bypassing everything for the jack, and it still won't turn off, I am going to look into problems with the jack specifically. Maybe it is a common failure?