actually clubhouse, we have yet to find ourselves in the position of having to pop one of the grandkid's behinds. Their mother is doing an excellent job of raising them to respect authority and their elders. Yes, their excitement does get out of hand and a full use of their Christian name is all it takes to get the message across. Because they know the next step isn't a pleasant experience for any of us..... and I'm not talking about a beating or a dozen lashes with a belt. There's a big difference between disciplining a child and abusing a child. Far too many children now days have absolutely no concept of discipline......and far too many parents have substituted abuse for discipline. Our grandkids have had their behinds popped by both momma and daddy and they know that grandpa and grandma have been given permission to administer discipline if needed..........fortunately, both grandpa and grandma haven't lost the tone of voice that gets the message across. My grandkids all use "sir and mam" when speaking to adults (family or strangers), they say "please, thank you and may I" with the ease of any other part of their vocabulary. They know how to be part of a conversation without butting in.....
For what it's worth, neither kittypa or gramkitties (nicknames the kids gave us due to the cats we own as opposed to great grandmother, dogmaw for her dogs) would have to go to that next step...........besides, when we have gone camping with them with their parents, the last place you'll find these kids is inside. From just before sun up to sun set and well into the night they are outside fishing, playing exploring, riding their bikes or running around with other kids in the CG doing the same thing.
The biggest challenge isn't getting them to "close the door" it's getting them in for the night. By time the nightly ritual of making smores over the campfire. everybody discussing what the best part of their day was and just relaxing by the fire enjoying the night sky is done, we usually end up carrying the 2 youngest to their beds.
I know that ideology is not in line with today's politically correctness, but from time to time I substitute teach in our local public schools and I can assure you the present ideology isn't working and the ones who are paying for it are our children.
And to answer your questions Clubhouse... no leaving a door open doesn't justify a pop on the behind, ignoring the admonishment to shut the door 2 or 3 times would merit the discipline. The broken window doesn't result in a pop (unless they had already been warned multiply times) it results in them paying for the glass to replace the window and believe me, having to dig into their piggy banks is the end of the world.
Both of our kids were raised with the understanding that a pop on the behind was a last resort option, the key is not letting it get to that extreme in the first place. Now our kids are raising the grandkids with the same mind set and we've got 2 grandkids in highschool that are on their way to college on academic and band scholarships, we have 2 more that are already in Mensa and every one of them in school are straight "A" students, active in clubs or sports and they all know that just like gates on the farm, doors are to be closed when you go through them.
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