Originally Posted by Kim Gass
Confidence comes from practice.It may be that the Original Posters just need to find a big space, send the other one out for beer and practice alone.
This, other than some basic tips about how to place your hands on the wheel to move the rear end of the trailer in the proper direction, is probably the best advice in this thread.
Practice is the only way to get good at backing and it is best done alone. I have taught many people to back up trailers. The one's that learn the quickest, and have the least amount of trouble generally speaking are women.
Take a water hose along and lay it on the ground in the path you wish to take and simply make the trailer tires follow the hose. Eventually you will get to the point where you can use an imaginary hose.
I've done this for decades, I still go slow. I still have to pull forward occasionally and take another go. It's not a race. When I go to a new spot I still get out, and lay down my mental hose. I might place a couple of rocks at some key locations and I always remember to look up and check overhead clearances as well. Sometimes I have to get out a couple of times and look again to make sure I'm where I want to be. Sometimes the guy behind me in the loop has to wait a few minutes. It is all part of the fun.
But no matter what happens I never yell at my wife or my daughter for trying to spot for me. Because they only person in control of the rig is me.