Welcome indeed!
I'm still only less than 2 years into my new trailer and just love doing it.
My disconnects were a problem for me, too, at first but I got the swing of it.
Did you get it off yet? Is your drive very steep? It seemed to loosen up for me after the first few tries and I use more force at times than I though would be necessary. I'll still get up on the bumper and hop around a bit.
Pictures of your rig are required.
Cheers,
Jeff