Well - there's EGG on my Face!!!
I just reset the Alfa to factory defaults are redid Step 2!
Step 1 - Connect to my Main Home Router (no R36 in path):
* laptop WiFi -> Netgear
* Download 47 Mbps Upload 4 Mbps
Step 2 - Put the R36 in the middle (AFTER RESET TO FACTORY DEFAULTS):
* laptop WiFi -> R36 WiFi -> Netgear
* Download 16 Mbps Upload 5 Mbps
So the moral here is two fold: the penalty of the R36 isn't as bad as I thought and second, never let me try to "fix" something that's not broken!!!