Well this still does not address some missing links here. One major mystery is still your updated generator brand and its connections pertaining to your described parallel kit. And if you have been running your house with a 9000 watt generator, how have you previously connected it to your home.
And with the 9000 watt generator unless you have a huge place it should run your ac , all dependent again on the outlet cord arrangement for 220 power. So a lot of the information is pertinent to this discussion, when asking the group.
I, too have been providing power during hurricanes and hurricane recovery times is all sorts of ways, in most cases with the open framed generators before switching over to the inverter generators. We have even provided essential power to related homes that failed to prepare. As the saying goes," I feel your pain".